Yep, that’s right…we just became a “Homeschooling” Family!
And it’s not because we hate the public school system either.
For those of you who know me, you know that I have nothing but love and respect for the people who devote their lives to the public education of our children. My son, Noah, is about to finish Kindergarten at the best Public Elementary School I have ever had the privilege of being a part of. So, in case I haven’t spelled it out clearly enough:
HEATHER AND I LOVE THE EDUCATION THAT LUCE ELEMENTARY HAS GIVEN TO OUR SON!!!
Sorry, didn’t mean to yell…I just wanted to make sure you heard that.
“Alright, Larry…if it’s not because of the school system, then why in God’s name are you pulling them out?”
Exactly. Let me explain…
It is because of God’s name that we are doing this.
Two years ago Heather approached me about homeschooling our children. My response? “I don’t have faith in your ability to teach our kids.”
I know, I know…all the wives out there can feel free to pick up stones to throw at me for that comment, but it was honest, and if I am nothing else, I am honest.
Once I said those horrifying words to my wife, I thought the conversation was over. I had won! Noah was attending public school and I was volunteering there everyday. The girls, meanwhile, were going to a private Christian preschool and we were making plans for Felicity to be enrolled into public school as well. There was no talk of homeschool, no divisive arguments…there was nothing.
And then, while watching tv on the couch, Heather dropped the bombshell…”I think God is calling us to homeschool our kids.”
I sighed, not wanting to talk about it….Heather knew I was trying to avoid it so she said it again, “I think God is calling us to homeschool, Larry.”
“Let’s pray about it.” That was my response I gave when I didn’t really want to talk about something, even though I really was going to pray about it, I still used it to get out of discussing it.
“My mom bought us tickets to the Homeschool convention…I thought we could go and check out some of the curriculum.”
At first, when I heard those words I felt angry….I felt Heather had gone behind my back and done something without discussing it first, but as soon as I turned around and looked my wife in the eyes, I saw something that I had only seen a couple of times in our relationship…
I saw a fiery passion.
I knew we had to go…it was the right thing.
Fast forward to a couple of months later, when we finally arrived in Cincinnati for the convention. Heather and I were excited…well, Heather was excited, I was there…
Our first session was entitled, “100% Mommy, 100% Teacher” by Susan Kemmerer. I liked what I heard, but it was during that session that I heard God say something that I wasn’t expecting:
“You should do this.”
“You know what.”
“I’m not listening to this…”
I think we’ve all said that to God at one point in our lives, haven’t we? Anyway, we left there with this stirring in my heart for homeschooling. I was confused, but eager to go to my next class on Fathering called, “Father Power” taught by Todd Wilson. Even if I didn’t homeschool, I could always learn to be a better dad.
As soon as we started, I knew I was in for a ride. Todd was an amazing speaker who spoke right to my heart. The first thing Todd said as he started our class was this:
“Your wife will fail as a homeschooling mom if you are not involved. She can’t do this without you.”
And then it hit me…
Heather can’t do this on her own, I was right all along (maybe I was a little wrong, but I’ll take my victories whenever I can)! Heather can’t do this by herself, but she can if I put the same type of passion and investment in her that she puts into our family.
As soon as I “got it” I said to God, “You really want me to do this?”
“Yep…but with My help.”
Realize that this is nothing more than a paraphrase of how God changed my heart for homeschooling in the course of one weekend. God spoke to me so powerfully that I really felt that I had no choice but to be faithful to my Father. That’s the reason we are homeschooling…
Not because it is better than public school.
Not because Heather and I are perfect teachers, or parents for that matter.
It’s not because we want to seclude our kids from every walk of life, keep them in social bubbles away from negative influences, or any other crazy objection that comes from people who don’t understand why normal Christian parents choose this route. There is only one simple reason as to why we are embarking on this journey…
God told us to.
I can’t explain the transformation that has happened in our family since making the decision God wanted us to make over two years ago. It is wonderful, it is loving, and incredibly freeing. I feel more like a godly dad then I ever have…
I now have faith, not only in my God, but in my wife too.
Peace, Love, and Soul
A Homeschool Dad